Self-security and friends

Most people feel better about themselves when they say they get along with everyone and have many friends.  Not only is this not often the case, but the opposite is more true.  Someone who is secue with themselves doesn't need a lot of friends.  They don't need the constant vertification that it's okay for them to be them.  Because of this, the quantity of friends is low but the quality is high because you attract self-secure people who accept you for you.  Then there is no need to pretend to be someone else, live a lie, or do what most people do to try to get friends.  Afterall, it's very easy to keep the friends you got by being you.